Can Sex Toys Save Your Marriage?

It’s an interesting question I know, to which most may have already made up their minds and come up with an immediate answer of no but before you shut the door on this one let me go on.

With a divorce rate in England and Wales in upwards of 150,000 per year (which is more than half the rate of marriages no less) and shows no sign of dramatic reduction is it possible that we are not prescribing the right ‘medicine’?

We all know that marriage should be a union of love, friendship and intimacy; particularly a healthy sex life but it seems that the lack of the latter can often be the major contributor when it comes to marriage breakdown. So with all the information at our fingertips and the ever increasing statistics staring us in the face why is that our sex lives are being paid less and less attention?

One reason has to do with our complete lack of ability to communicate about anything that is remotely taboo and it is this exact loss of communication skills and the ignorant yet hopeful attitude that ‘things will sort themselves’ which can ear mark a marriage for probable separation within 12 months.

Our hectic lifestyles aren’t helping either. Sex is way down on the list of things to do, sadly being replaced by the longer hours at work, the school run, the shopping and the house work. Put frankly many don’t have time for sex anymore and there must be an increase in the popularity of the use of the phrase ‘I’m too tired’ - I’d like to see those statistics!

Low sex marriages across the board often share the same symptoms; you only have sex a few times a month, sex is a chore, you schedule sex, you don’t fantasize about your partner, there is no sense of adventure and neither of you are frisky anymore. Suffering these symptoms? If so a remedy is needed but it might not be what you are thinking.

So what’s the solution?

Step 1 - Start talking. A fundamental concept that needs to be grasped is that communication is paramount. How can you correct a problem if one half of your relationship doesn’t know that one exists? It has been proven time and time again that couples who communicate well and share activities together often have a much more sexually active relationship.

Step 2 - Make time. Often couples that end up going away for a weekend or manage to escape the children for any substantial periods of time find that they have what can only be described as ‘honeymoon sex’. The reduced workload and subsequent lower stress levels seem to remove inhibition and rekindle the slowly dwindling flame.

Step 3 - Spice it up. If it isn’t new, it’s through. Consider spicing up your bedroom. It’s the quickest and cheapest way to give you both a change of scenery and even a subtle hint like changing the usual light bulb for a shade of rouge can make a huge impact.

Step 4 - Look in the toy box. Many still think of sex toys as being scary looking vibrating gizmos that can only be found in the dodgy back street sex shops found in the nasty side of town - not anymore. Sure you can still find these but when it comes to relationships sometimes it’s better to take a more subtle approach.

When choosing any marital aids choose the ones that will offer the greatest chance of increased intimacy and not just the latest craze. Generally the area of sex that offers amplified intimacy levels is foreplay. Concentrate on this area and get to know your partner all over again. Make it fun with a handful of accessories like the classic blindfold, maybe some fluffy handcuffs and some daring dice that dictate an act to be carried out with every roll.

Keeping your choices to a select few will have the desired effect of keeping the focus on you and your partner and not the new additions. There’s no point having the latest toys that receives all the attention and hoping that your relationship will be ok now, the focus should be on what they can add to your sex life, not be the central part of it.

So, can sex toys save your marriage? On there own, no. However, as part of a larger scheme to pay more attention to your sex lives, maybe they are just what the doctor ordered.

Source: Quality articles on Sexuality - ArticleMuse.com
Author: Jenna Stevenson

Jenna is a tester of adult sex toys at Batteries Not Included. Her reviews on sex toys can be found at www.batteries-not-included.co.uk

Why Use Lube? Lubricaton: The Slippery Truth

Lubrication is an essential factor in every sexual act. Unfortunately, it’s often overlooked, ignored, or dismissed as not important. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Here’s what you should know.

Why Use Lube? Lubrication: The Slippery Truth
by Laura Poole
Website: www.sexpositivegirl.com

When aroused, women’s vaginas self-lubricate a bit�getting wet, getting slippery. This is Mother Nature’s way of saying, “Have sex! Propagate the species! Here, I’ll make it easy for you!” Lots of women produce plenty of natural lubricant and don’t feel they need any more from a bottle. But here’s a fact: There are times in your life when you won’t produce enough natural lubricant for whatever erotic fun you had in mind. Your may not produce enough lube when you are dehydrated (especially if you’re a nursing mother), when you go through menopause (vaginal dryness can be a real problem for some women), right after your period for a few days, when you’re on certain medications, if your mind is in the mood and your body is not responding yet, or if you’re all clean from the tub or shower (it might take a while to get the juices flowing again). Another fact: You are not less of a woman if you need lubricant. Lube will never hurt you, only help you.

Another little fact of nature: Natural lubricant dries up fairly quickly. You certainly don’t want to be in the middle of some exciting sexual fun and suddenly start chafing, or have the condom break. (Note: Chafing inside your vagina leaves you prone to bacterial infection.) Some people tell me that if they’re not quite as slippery as they would like, they indulge in a little oral fun to get things wet again. I am all in favor of oral fun, but saliva dries up in about 3 seconds. It doesn’t make a great lubricant. Having a bottle of lube handy will keep things smooth and slippery, no matter what you have in mind! Lube is good for you! Not only does it keep latex strong, it delays orgasm for both partners by reducing friction.

Most people think of lubrication only in terms of using a condom or for sexual intercourse. Although this is accurate and correct, lube can be used for any kind of sexual fun you had in mind . . . and might make it a whole lot better! Obviously, you need a nice lubricant any time you use a condom (or any other latex birth control, including dental dams and diaphragms); lube is what keeps the condom from breaking. You can use a flavored lube (or regular nontoxic lube) for oral fun, too, to keep things slippery without have to use lots of saliva and to keep your hands active along with your tongue and lips! Masturbation actually cries out for lube�guys can use it instead of hand lotion or with certain toys. Women can use lube to slick up their favorite toy that needs to be inserted, or just externally because the clitoris doesn’t like to be touched when it’s dry. Anal play absolutely requires lubricant because that area of the body doesn’t self-lubricate. Of course, you can always put some lube on the bedroom doorknob so the kids can’t come in!

I recommend choosing a lubricant that was formulated for intimate purposes, rather than those intended for medical exams. A good water-based lube can be used anywhere and with any toy, washes away easily with water, and is generally nontoxic and nonstaining (check specific brands). Silicone-based lubricant is super-long-lasting and slippery, but may not be used with silicone toys (it will ruin them), though it is safe for latex toys; it does not wash off immediately in water, you must use soap. An oil-based product does not make a good lubricant for several reasons. First, if you are using any form of latex birth control/disease prevention (condoms, diaphragms, dental dams), you should know that oil and petroleum products will degrade the latex amazingly fast, rendering it useless (possibly full of holes) within a few minutes. Second, oil in the vagina can disrupt your body’s natural cleansing system, which is carefully balanced, leaving you prone for a bacterial infection.

An important health note for women: Are you prone to yeast infections? Did you know that your lube might be a major culprit? Check the ingredients. Is there glycerin in it? Glycerin is a common ingredient in lubricant it keeps it from evaporating. It’s also a type of sugar. Too much sugar in your vagina can trigger a yeast infection. If your lube has a lot of glycerin in it, you could be causing more infections. There are some water-based lubrication formulas that have no glycerin at all, and many more that have very low amounts of glycerin. Silicone lube also has no glycerin at all. Check the ingredients, and consider switching brands if you have a problem with recurring infections. (If you still get infections after switching lube, visit your doctor to rule out other issues, and consider getting an HIV test�recurrent yeast infection is a prime symptom of HIV in women.)

Why Society Thinks Pole Dancing is ‘Bad’

Here are the three things that contribute to what most people think are wrong with pole dancing: Money, Men, Stripping

Pole dancing is seen by many as a sinful dance involving lust and seduction. While it is a dance of seduction, who says you have to do it in front of a club full of guys? And if you’re dancing for your husband, then the lust is welcomed.

Here are the three things that contribute to what most people think are wrong with pole dancing: Money, Men, Stripping

So why would you want to have a pole dance party? Well, We’ve taken away the men, the money AND the stripping and given ladies a chance to give this dance form a try. You’ll discover a new way to be sexy for yourself and your husband. You’ll boost your sex drive, self esteem and, if you continue with classes, get whipped into shape. You can take part in this hot new trend in the privacy of your own home surround by your best girlfriends! Ready to break out of that shell and try something new?

Call me for more info and to schedule your own Pole Dance Party!
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All about Pheromones!

You may have seen the recent episode of 20/20 featuring a spot on Pheromones. If not, here is some information about pheromones and products that contain them!

Pheromones are a naturally occurring hormone that your body gives off to attract a mate. Basically, it’s that unconscious chemistry between two people; when there’s just *something* about that person that drives you wild; when they smell so good, but they’re not wearing any cologne or perfume- That’s pheromones!

One little fact that many people do not realize about pheromones is that we release them naturally through our sweat glands! Yet, in our society, we take 1-3 showers a day, wear antiperspirant, deodorants, lotions, perfumes, and we do everything in our power not to sweat and we plug up those glands.

Another thing not often realized about pheromones is that when we inhale our own pheromones, it heightens our mood and our confidence! And when others inhale your pheromones, it makes you more influential! In a customer service industry (retail, restaurant, bar, etc.)? Then pheromones just may be your ticket to higher sales and greater tips!

Lastly, our pheromones change with us throughout our monthly cycles and throughout the years. You may notice that a pheromone product may smell differently on you at different times of the month! This is because we naturally release different levels of pheromones in direct relation to our fertility- it’s natures way of procreating the species! So, when you are nearing and at peak ovulation, your pheromones will be released in greater quantities than during menstruation, and as we age and near and enter menopause, our pheromones shift as well! Many women 40+ find that adding a pheromone product to their daily beauty routine has added that missing spark back into their lives!

So, what products can give you those pheromones? Body Dew Bath Gel and Body Dew Spray are two great products easily added to your daily bathing routine! Pure Instinct is a very pheromone potent, gender friendly cologne that can be worn alone or layered with your favorite scent! The Burning Desire Candle is a great way to scent your space with aromatic, sensual scent while filling the room with pheromones! And, Silky Sheets is a wonderful multi-use product to not only scent your sheets and turn them to silk, but also to be worn on the body for go anywhere attraction!

Check out http://www.athenasbyalison.com to view and purchase any of these great pheromone products! Or, book a home party and smell them in person and earn them for FREE!
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Happy Buzzing,

Alison Ginter
Goddess #217
CT Sattelite Trainer
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